TannerandJade Roper Tolbertare clearing the air regarding their relationship with their kids — and each other.
“I tried to just be as honest as I could onNick [Viall]‘s podcast about numerous topics and I tried to be real. I caught some heat from that,” says the new dad of two.
On the Aug. 28 episode ofThe Viall Files, Tanner said in part, “My connection with [now 2-year-old daughterEmerson “Emmy” Avery], probably initially, was the most strong,” following up with, “but maybe it just takes time. Iwilllove them equally, for different reasons, but I feel it right now more with Emmy and I don’t know why.”
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“I’ve gotten tons of messages from men and women saying their husbands or themselves have felt the same way and thank you, but I also got a lot of heat and shame from it as well,” Tanner adds. “It’s one of those deals — do you talk about it? Do you not talk about it?”
“We’re hormonally designed to bond with our babies, but it doesn’t always happen,” says Jade. “[Brooks’birth] was traumatic enough for me towhere I didn’t bond [right away] … and then it’s been a slow roll for me feeling the way I guess I just felt immediately with Emerson. Women definitely experience that too, but I definitely do think it’s different for dads.”
“I feel like it’s slower. Maybe not in all cases, but at least in mine,” Tanner adds, explaining elsewhere in the episode that he doesn’t “feel equipped on how to help [Brooks] when he is crying or fussy” whereas “if I give him to Mom, he’s probably going to stop crying a lot quicker.”
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“It was the sixth week. Brooks is 6 weeks and so Tanner and I had sex,” Jade says before her husband adds, “Once.”
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“If you listened to Nick’s podcast, you would know what I said was no way disrespectful,” Tanner says. “I was talking about our sex life when it was just Emmy, life after one child, how it had been the last couple years and also saying now we’re four weeks postpartum, internally knowing that we’re waitingsix-plus weeks like our doctor’s orders.”
“You can still worship me,” Jade tells him, to which Tanner replies that he does “for other reasons, butI also do have needs and it’s okayto talk about that.”
“Maybe not all guys need certain things, but I want to have a healthy sex life — I think that’s an important part of a marriage and it’s something I want to work on and make sure we don’t fall into a rut,” he notes. “I shouldn’t be shamed for communicating that.”
source: people.com
