It’s been 12 months sinceRobert Carterofficially opened his heart — and home — tofive siblings in foster care.
And while it’s certainly been a “busy” year for the single Ohio dad, 30, he tells PEOPLE he wouldn’t have it any other way.
“It’s so beautiful to be able to see them grow together,” Carter says of his kids, including sons Robert, almost 10, Giovanni, 6, and Kiontae, 5, and daughters Marionna, almost 12, and Makayla, 8.
“They’re bonding a lot more now. They fall asleep watching movies together, they sleep in each other’s rooms,” he adds. “They just motivate me. Everything I do now, I think about them first and how it’s going to affect them. That keeps me on the straight and narrow.”
Robert Carter with his five kids.Robert Carter
It’s for that reason that Carter hopes others will consider becoming an adoptive parent, especially withNational Adoption Dayapproaching on Nov. 20.
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“As long as they have the love in their heart, the time, and the means to take care of these kids that need forever homes, then I feel like they should step up and do it,” he says. “If it’s in your heart, then it’s obviously meant for you to do it, as long as it’s in your heart for the right reasons.”
A foster child himself, Carter knew he had to reunite the quintet after being separated from his own eight siblings at age 12, asPEOPLE previously reported.
Robert Carter’s five children.Robert Carter
While fostering the three boys in Dec. 2018, Carter set out to find their sisters and finally brought them together that following June, after six long months apart.
“The first time they saw each other after six months, they all cried,” says Carter, who owns a salon in Cincinnati. “After that moment, that’s when I knew that they should be together forever.”
Robert Carter’s five kids jumping outside.Robert Carter
In the year that has followed, Carter says the family has been focused on “making memories,” including adopting two dogs, moving to a larger home in Cincinnati, hostingHalloweengatherings andlaunching a YouTube channel.
The kids have also been busy excelling in school, pursuing extra-curricular activities, and finding their passions, like gymnastics, cheerleading, dance and making TikTok videos.
Robert Carter with his son Kiontae.Robert Carter
Robert Carter’s daughter Makayla.Robert Carter
“Me and the kids are big fans ofHalloween, it’s actually our favorite holiday,” Carter says. “So the day of their adoption, I told them we can have a big party. Marionna made me promise, every year now for our anniversary, we have to have a big Halloween party. So, we had a big party this year.”
“They also wanted to do YouTube, so we started a channel,” he adds. “We launched it to celebrate our one-year anniversary. The first video is me revealing our new house to the kids.”
While these moments as a family have been incredibly special, Carter admits that he’s also found them to be bittersweet.
“To see them together, it just warms my heart,” he says. “But it also makes me think of how much their biological parents are missing out on.”
Robert Carter with his daughter Marionna.Robert Carter
“[Their] mom did reach out to me the day she got out of jail after doing three years,” he says. “She was like, ‘Hey, I would like to see my kids as soon as possible.’ I told her that I need at least a year or two of her being clean before we even talk about her seeing the kids.”
“Because that message alone just let me know that she’s not ready,” he adds. “If she wants a relationship with them, and they want a relationship with her, then I’m open to it. But only if she’s doing what she’s supposed to do.”
Robert Carter’s son Robert.Robert Carter
Looking ahead, Carter says his family plans to host Thanksgiving at their house with their extended family and hopes to make a trip to Disney World aroundChristmas.
“We were supposed to go to Disney to celebrate the adoption, but due toCOVID, we didn’t go,” he explains. “We might have to make the trip for Christmas this year so we can experience that together. They’ve never really been anywhere so it’ll be nice to experience Christmas out of town and somewhere warm.”
Robert Carter’s son Giovanni.Robert Carter
Though his hands are certainly full these days, Carter says he’s learned quite a lot in his short 30 years of life — and more importantly, in his role as dad.
“I just take it one day at a time,” he says. “With my kids, I had to learn a little more patience than what I had originally, just because they’re not my biological kids so they already were set in their ways. I can’t expect them to act like me or to have the same temperament as me when they’re not my biological kids.”
“They do have certain things that I have to work on with them,” he adds. “But on those harder days, my kids keep me going. Because if I don’t, who else is going to provide for them or take care of them? As a parent, you feel like no one’s going to take care of your kids like you are. They keep me focused.”
source: people.com
